Sex or no sex?

I find sex is a language on its own, and we are capable of communicating so much through it. It is also a sensitive because it can so close to peoples guarded emotions, desires, attitudes.

As human beings, we are fortunate to have this built in to our very nature.

“Flesh begets flesh spirit begets spirit” sexuality now days focuses too much on the orgasm. I’m very sexual and I find it easy to get a woman in bed, most women will throw themselves at you if you have enough game. (Please pardon me all you enlighten women on this site I mean no disrespect to any woman or the feminine; I worship the Goddess)… I too find it empty if the sex just focuses on the orgasm. I believe the sexual energy can be brought to a great fire between the two lovers in bed without the orgasm; I’ve done it... What’s truely important is the love, energy and connection between the two lovers and converting that sexual energy into spirit not spilling it.

Holding your power inside you by taming the serpent (not having an orgasm) holds the Kundalini inside you. The serpent can protect you and raise your spiritual power or it can devour you; lust can never be satisfied it is a bottomless pit (the forbidden apple the knowledge of good and evil), the orgasm diminishes your Prana, Kundalini etc., and puts you to sleep…

Don’t think I’m a prude I’ve had more lovers than I can count and spilled a lot of energy in my short time on this planet. I’m not judging any one if that’s what turns them on. I’m a man and not a god I was made when flesh begot flesh but I too wish to return home and only spirit can beget spirit.

Lao-Tzu said:
The Tao gives birth to One.
One gives birth to Two.
Two gives birth to Three.
Three gives birth to all things.

All things have their backs to the female
and stand facing the male.
When male and female combine,
all things achieve harmony.
~

If the serpent can be tamed the father and mother create the Holy Spirit through the sexual energy between them, if the serpent devours you flesh begets flesh which can be a beautiful child or sexual addiction. The former is extremely difficult; I’m weak so the serpent eventually winds up devouring me, lol...

Ladies I need your help ;)

I agree with you to some degree, and I understand how you feel. Sometimes one night stands become boring and empty. It's about the way it happens.

I must say that many of my deepest connections have started in bed, in quitte spontaneous ways, they just happend. And they were so mind and emotional blowing that they could not but grow into something very beautiful and deep.

But I've had sex with many people were that didn't happen, and I've also waited to have sex with people with whom I connected in other ways.

It really depends on circunstances and the people concerned.

What I think is that Love is either there or it isn't, and there is no rational way around it.
You can chose the way you connect with someone, but you cannot really chose the nature of the connection, cause it's far beyond the ways of the little mind.

I think physicality is a lot less likely to ever feel empty for those of us without obvious options to get the easy fixes which seem to leave other people feeling unfulfilled. The gentleman who said it's easy to get women in bed if you have enough game probably wouldn't even understand, because he has those easy options. Those of us guys who've never had game, and I'm sure I'm not the only one, know what I mean. You women, no offense, should have no issues finding sex if you want it, men are easy. you don't need game as a woman, just obvious willingness to play.
When it's a lot of work to get to the position where an encounter is even possible, one tends to be either a lot more or a lot less picky about who is considered as a playmate or companion. The presence or lack of that pickiness probably has an influence on how much sharing, warmth, energy, closeness, warm fuzzies, and other forms of enjoyment are available to tap from the experience. For instance, if I was to bother pursuing a woman, it would require more reasons than just a physical attraction, and so the possibility of all the warm fuzzies from physical contact would be amped by the extra attributes that girl has which justify any effort at chasing her. Since girls rarely chase those of us with no game, it's a lot harder to find an empty encounter than one with potential. Not that it can't happen, it's just less likely when one has to invest all kinds of energy and effort into making anything manifest.
Being picky, is very expensive in terms of available experiences.
Not being picky ranges from dangerous to yucky.
I prefer picky, though it costs me.
just my 2 cents.