Tagged with 'Polyamory'

Unconditional love, universal love, real love, divinely channeled love...is not confined to one person, because then that "love" can be taken away from that one person. Then that "love" is about approving or not approving. Then that "love" is based on one person fitting or representing our "ideal" in specific ways.

Here is another non-sexual application of the beautiful term compersion, originally added to our lexicon by the polyamory community, and expanded at ManifestPositivity.org.

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Puppy Love

This is what "polydarity" looks like. When I coined that word last month I mentioned efforts to connect for mutual support with a few polyamory organizations.

This is the third in a 3-part series on compersion...

By Teresa Howell

Teresa Howell is the newest contributor to the Manifest Positivity advocacy journalism collective. This is the first of a three part essay on compersion - taking joy in the joy experienced by those we love.

By Teresa Howell

I may have coined a word - "polydarity" - which is the title of this post about both the shunning and encouragement I've experienced for coming out as polyamorous. This also contains another excerpt from Midori's recent talk at HSU and news about my being invited to talk about poly and The Imps in two CR sociology classes this week.

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A few days ago I attended a planning meeting for The Impropriety Society, whose volunteers are creating a formal business structure that will open a permanent sex-positive community center. Check out our Impish Visions...

13 Muluc recently blogged about sex and drug taboos and I realized yet again what a special place I live in here in Humboldt County, CA. Growing marijuana is the biggest engine of our local economy and nobody would deny it.

You

So beautiful , the feel of your aura

Moves me before you even touch me

I spontaneously respond to your closeness

My molecules rearrange to reach out to you

Every cell in my body moves and shifts in your direction

What happens when we touch?

At the subatomic level

If we traveled down past what we see or hear or feel

To observe the changes we’ve made in each other

No attachment to any outcome. Just the journey.

Attachment is where things get tangled and messy.

We can come together, merge, melt, then move away. That's okay.

No expectations.

Love is enough. It can entwine us, we can move within and around love, be what we are meant to be.

But it doesn't have to mean forever.

In that frame of being, marriage makes no sense.

I have been an advocate of the polyamorous lifestyle since I was 17 years old and had never even heard of polyamory at that point in my life. The term was introduced to me by my history professor my senior year of college when I was 21.

I know how much we all love to break down the seemingly common place words that we use every day. I decided to write a follow-up blog to my Polyamory in Practice blog, and in thinking of what to say and how to title it, it occurred to me that the term “relationship” is very heavy with meaning that we may sometimes not think about!

I’ve always been the kind of person that is full of answers. I look around and see so many problems and my mind is always whirring with solutions and possibilities, humming and sometimes screaming out the answers.

Every relationship with every individual and creature that we meet is based on mutual respect and desire (or lack thereof when the relationship is negative). Some humans prefer to have a particular partner that they spend almost all of their time with, and I believe that this is perfectly beautiful and acceptable.