As I see it, the goal is not to be high or happy all the time; but to be present all the way. And this means present to whatever is real and true for you right now. Gabrielle Roth’s (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gabrielle_Roth) definition of ecstasy is to embody 100% what you feel. By this definition, to be sobbing at a funeral is to be in ecstasy.