I dislike the term Bisexual when describing my sexuality to people.

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amen our gender is an illusion if we feel a connection to someone on a soulful level then that is the level sexual activities take us to, it doesnt matter if their physical body is big small dark lite male female what matters is the connection to the divine that we make when we literally make or create love through sexual union .when i was younger i learned alot of hard lessons by judging the feelings that i fel towards another based on surface observations ,after ridding myself of the mentality of that person isnt pretty enough etc i found so much joy love and pleasure i had cut myself off from before ,i found i learn an immense amount about myself and my lovers during pillow talk revelations of evolution i wouldnt have been open to if the act of lovemaking had not opened my heart.

And I keep it in the closet.

And it's really hard for me to speak about it because when is curved with a hitch they just don't say anything.

After telling a friend of mine that I was curved with a hitch he looked at me and asked "Is that what that is because I'm curved with a hitch too!"

We then talked about getting a Curved with a Hitch Annonomous group going because we believe people should be talking about being curved with a hitch more.

It's so lonely when you are Curved with a Hitch... more closed about it then being any other thing.

If one is curved with a Hitch out there --- just remember you are not alone.

I tend to simply say " I love People" or "I love Love" and though I basically stick to men I am attracted to a multitude of people that all together couldn't fit into any category other than People. People with good hearts who are not rigid in beliefs and aren't afraid to live and love. Part of this evolution is opening up our hearts without fear and realizing that we're all one and that Love is Love no matter if it's coming to you from a person of your own gender/race or not. And to Love someone and to be close to them doesn't always have to be sexual either, too many people just naturally (or maybe unnaturally) take it there, but you can experience amazing highs and revelations and explosions in all your chakras by just being really open and caring with someone, anyone you like.

It's time for labels to go, they're only here to categorize and confuse people and to lock them into some "Defining Characteristic Trait" when there is no One thing or ten things that define us, there's a multitude of things. We're so multifacited its ridiculous and perhaps when more people realize that we really can Love without fear and that there is Infinity Love we will see a rise in the number of "bisexuals" out there. Or at least a rise in people being much much closer and caring to start with. Love Without Borders?

So true, and thank you for bringing this topic to the table. I've found that sexuality is a political issue, especially for those who consider themselves exclusively homosexual. Bisexuality doesn't seem PC to them. Now I'm speaking in general terms, of course....

"Label Jars, Not People."

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I'm trying... sometimes it's all hard to figure out from both sides of the fence.

It's all a big misunderstanding.

Ever think of "trysexuality"? You'll try anything sexual.

I had a breakdown a number of years ago. I had spent my life following what other people believed I should be. This culminated in my almost becoming a priest. I was seen as a spiritual person so everyone thought I should be a priest. Well, I turned away from that and had a couple of failed marriages, the last one ending in my own breakdown and wondering who the heck I was. Of course, I blamed a lot of this on the fact that I turned my back on God so this was my punishment.
Well fortunately, I sought help and spent five years in counseling. We started by tearing down the old image of who I was and started looking at the real person underneath. Through all of this, I came to realize that I was living my life for everyone else and not for me. I was following their spiritual path and not my own. This started me on a wondrous journey of discovery that continues to this day.
The other aspect that we looked at was my personal vision of sex. This was traumatic because she left me with the homework to give this some thought over the week. In doing so, the memory of a neighbor molesting me came back and I was unfortunately still hundreds of miles from her office. I had to Connecticut on a job and was returning and heading to my appointment when the memory came back. It was difficult to process. The unnerving part was that though I had been scared, it wasn't like he was brutal and outside of fear, I wasn't exactly turned off. So that raised a question with me that I broached with her that maybe my trouble with my marriages was that I was gay. She laughed and then explained that there is no black and white. Our sexual orientation falls more along a linear line. She told me that in our discussions she felt that I was more heterosexual, but maybe bi-curious. So somewhere in between hetero and bi. She told me that maybe I should go out with a guy and see. Well, I was in the middle of a bad divorce with kids, the last thing I needed was to give her more ammo. Not to mention the fear that was being spread of AIDS at the time. So I just left it.
Since then I have remarried and am happily so, but there is always that lingering question, would I enjoy being with another man?

Great discussions here. I have always been fascinated with human sexuality. I had thought about going into psychology with a major in sexual behaviour. Our society is so anti-sex, yet behind closed doors, it seems things are wide open.

Of course, I still have some lingering Catholic issues like how I can be a spiritual person and still talk and enjoy sex?

If the sane say the insane are insane, what if the sane are insane?

Would that make the insane sane? - E Croft