Maintain Your Cool

It would be cool to always keep your cool and exchange kind words with kind people in kind situations. It would be cool if what was expected was typically always met, and when not, insight in the situation would be found immediately.
But guess what, sometimes people aren't so kind, or the situations aren't so clear, and expectations may not be met, and the hope may seem lost. But you've just gotta keep your cool, cause if you don't, progress towards manifesting your original intentions will come to a halt, and maybe even reverse.

Kind words are exchanged between friends. Hateful words are exchanged between enemies. But doesn't it seem that friends and enemies are dependent upon the words exchanged? Remember Jerry Springer?..."Girl you got my back on this right?" "Ho, you trippin I aint yo friend!" "Oh hellll na you did not just call me a ho!" *cat fight* JERRY JERRY ...Classic.

We tell hateful things to people because we have manifested hate within us, and we hope to release it onto another person, its like hate hurts and we just want to get rid of it. We even have this thought process where we feel that the hate, when given to another person in the form of words, will give them insight into why we are upset with them, and these words will have them work themselves out to be better. "Oh, because I didn't call you last night I should go eat shit? Ok I'll go do that!" Obviously this is totally unrealistic. As soon as we give them these hateful words they take it as an attack on their person, and with this hate now in their hearts they try to revert it back on you because how dare you attack them right? I've heard the term "ping ponging" about this phenomenon before.

Instead, if we keep our cool, communication is possible. But don't be too cool. Or else you're acting like you're too cool... and no body likes people who think they're tool cool for school. You'll just look like a "jackass." Because you really are mad, you're just trying not to show it by giving backhanded comments.

And of course, all of these muddy situations can be avoided if the perspectives between people aren't ever cleaved too far apart, but sometimes we are unable to involve ourselves in other people's lives, and that's when these things occur most I think.