helping those that suck

Sometimes people suck, I mean those you know.

Sometimes they don't believe it. Sometimes we suck for accusing them. But sometimes everyone around them agrees they suck. And most people avoid them.

But is that the best thing to do? I feel like they need our help.

The people that I've come to know that suck, suck because they lack empathy. They can't figure out the worth of integrity, it is quite astonishing. Almost laughable, but simultaneously saddening.

My roommate told me that empathy is something we must learn. We are not born into it. Babies think they are the center of the universe, they even have to learn object permanence (that objects still exist after being put behind other objects and thus out of sight). Well if that is the case, then I think it is worth it to teach these people empathy. First, to call them out, let them know that they suck, and why... and maybe not in those words, but that is my generation/culture for you. Then, they will either understand, and try to be a better person, or they may not believe it, and blame things on you. But then just lay out the evidence for them and eventually they will come to an understanding. If not, then they will either remain in denial, or they will lay out the evidence for you, and then you will realize you were the one that was misunderstood. But chances are if your on this website, you give people the benefit of the doubt, are passive about drama, and are laid back... so if you think someone sucks, they probably do.

The best thing to do is never come to know these people... I never thought I would. But sometimes it is through business, or sometimes it is through family, and those things can be harder to avoid.. regardless my message here is that these people are people and they deserve our help. Ultimately they will have to help themselves, but we can help them realize that there is something they need to do for themselves. Of course, this doesn't mean we spend our lives trying to make everyone realize and overcome their thoughts, but I think a simple message and word of advice from everyone they do harm to will eventually teach them how to not suck in those certain situations.

And I beg of you to become more aware, in terms of empathy. Even those that claim to be more spiritually aware can still suck in many situations... Let's try to be good people for each other. Part of that is letting people know how they can be better.