Relationships

Relationships are one of the most complicated and confusing areas of life. You can watch and listen for information on how to find and sustain a commited relationship, or find why such a thing is actually uneccessary: many have found committed relationships, especially marriage, to at least eventually be a pause in personal growth. Through my, I will be the first to say, very Odd relationships, I have learned many things. Because I haven't (yet) found another person to share some of my conclusions with, I would love a discussion following this article. I am not saying I am Right, I am saying this is what I've noticed. This is my personal perspective.

I perceive life the way most people would view their dreams from the perspective of being awake, but I can usually remember more "woken life" events. However, life and dream life are entirely connected to one another. (I want to talk about dreaming in another article). I bring it up now because of something they have in common: Symbolism and metaphors.

Everything in reality is the universe (AKA You/ Your Higher self/ and everything in the universe, simultaneously) trying to tell you something, as a guide to help you improve yourself, and learn your lessons. (Some call it Feedback). This is most obvious in our relationships with one another, when we see how we feel about someone as a reflection of ourself: What we hate we have hated in ourselves, and what we love about someone is something we've recognized in ourselves, or something we wish to have ourselves (You can choose to admire the quality and adjust yourself accordingly, or be jealous, dwelling on what you don't have- One will change your life positively and the latter will get you no where).

When you meet someone, you will immediately try to decode what you love/dislike/are fascinated with as a way to shape their personality within your mind. You may not realize that you are actually shaping a new version of yourself in your consciousness.
AHA!
So consider that the person's qualities and input are actually shaping You, and You shaping THEM. What can you learn from this person? And what can they learn from you? As long as you know the person, there will always be something and it is usually strikingly obvious once you start paying attention in this sort of awareness level. And once you do notice, you will develop as a person very very rapidly.

So ask yourself why you surround yourself with who you do. What are they teaching you? How can you fluidly and strategically dissect their personality to answer these questions? Start with what you can teach them. (I do not recommend you tell anyone what to do. They will probably find this rude, and more likely will not change. ) I had to learn the hard way that resistance adds power to the issue. Allow everyone to be who they are, emphasize in YOURSELF FIRST the quality you wish to bring forth. Wear it with a smile, be vibrant and creative. Entrainment is a natural phenomena: Relationships WILL change both of you, but you can choose how much you learn and change and at what pace.

Doesn't this alone make relationships so much more intriguing and beautiful?

I have more than an article's worth of considerations to bring up about relationships, but here are some of my knocks at the giant mysterious relationship door:

Being LGBT:
It is difficult for people to have unbiased opinions about this one, however I have intimately witnessed many perspectives of this confusing "dilemma" of society. Up front, and this should be obvious to those who know me, I love unconditionally. I automatically see people's colors, frequency, and metaphysical characteristics before physical characteristics (Age, race, gender, sexual preference, etc). Why? I know FAR TOO MANY people who break all the rules of stereotypes. To judge anyone based solely on their physical appearance is IGNORANT, and foolish because what you're hating is growing hatred in YOURSELF, Always.
To love everyone is to be loved by everyone, and this a huge part of the ultimate natural ecstasy.

Now I will surely be pushing some buttons here, but bare with me, and please feel free to disagree: Everyone has been trying to figure out what makes a person LGBT..
Well, I believe in past lives. I believe that the physical journey is to serve the soul journey, and we have/will have several, (or all?), timelines of experience.. What if you are a male now, and were a female in your past life? What if your being gay is the universes way of your past life trying to contact you and tell you something? (TIME and SPACE do not exist, they are an illusion, making subtle or obvious communication with other lives and versions of yourself entirely possible) HMMMM,
Therefor I actually believe that everyone is naturally bisexual, and if we embraced this theory, we would not have the issue of "overpopulation", and "unwanted babies/lives". We would have "room" for infinite love. (Hatred, or disgust, blocks this "room").

Dead Relationships:
Have you or do you know anyone who has seemingly paused their growth because of a committed relationship? Have you ever wanted to tell someone that they'd be better off alone? I answered yes to all of these questions just to find myself doing the same thing. Of course we want to believe that we've found The One as soon as someone really grabs our attention and seems to work. After really really considering the relationships I've had (I won't even go into detail, just know there hasn't been many, and they were all VERY unique). I realize now I did this to myself to learn as fast as possible. I created each of these relationships to directly learn lessons I found so important that I needed to not just consider in my head, but physically experience (This is what it's all about). The more committed the relationship, the bigger the lesson is about attachment. Attachment is a blockage. Openness and love for all is ecstasy.
So am I saying it's not possible to live in ecstasy being totally committed to 1 person? No, but I think both people at that point have to be extremely conscious beings, at least aware of your own and each other's constant growth. I have not found my perfect match yet, but at this point I hardly imagine the desire to have this kind of relationship- For now I have to learn lessons I can only learn "on my own", or "with everyone at once". As my experience suggests, I wasn't growing to my potential in a committed relationship. When the relationship ended, my consciousness immediately expanded, and I instantly wanted to spread my heart and mind with everyone as much as possible, rather than 1 person. I feel much more open to people and experiences now.