A new to me, way of communication

First off I would like to give thanks to this site for allowing me to feel comfortable sharing and having conversations that I normally would not feel comfortable sharing and having with most of my friends and family.
What I want to share today is my feelings about a new to me form of communication that I have felt for a while but only since recently have been able to put into words.
My wife and I discuss the topic of communication a lot. It is very important to communicate to maintain a peaceful relationship with anyone. Our thoughts and most other peoples thoughts on communication is to focus and fully listen to the words that the other person is saying and letting go of your own thoughts and ideas for the moment that the other person is talking and until they are finished. Then communicate your ideas about the topic at hand and they fully listen to you and by doing this your creating a circle, with their lips igniting your ears, which sparks thoughts that flow from your lips to their ears and ignites their thoughts. All while keeping steady and focused eye contact. To communicate in a way that just flows together where I listen to some words and then I say some words that have to do with the words that I just heard. It makes since and I agree that this is a very effective way of communication but recently I feel like Ive tapped into a different way of communication that makes my body vibrate every time I enter it. Ive felt it in the past and it has scared me so I shut down, but recently I fully embraced it and now I feel like I understand it enough to where I can attempt to put it into words for the first time.
Have you ever listened to a song and gotten lost into it? Like when you hear a song that you like but instead of listening to every lyric of the song and fully understanding what the person singing is trying to explain, your mind gets lost in the song and a sort of daydream occurs? Well that is kind of how this feels but when communicating with someone it’s different because there is the expectation to be listening to the words. It is considered to be rude and selfish when someone is talking and the other person is not listening to their words. Most of the time when we talk to someone we can feel if they are listening to us or not. If we feel that they are not listening to our words we can sometimes get frustrated and cut our story short or even call them out for being rude.
Imagine if we did not know what words meant. Words are just sounds that someone makes. The sounds naturally ignite feelings. The actual words are a forced or unnatural way of understanding. If I hear the word basketball it brings me feelings of growing up with my brothers playing in the driveway but when my wife hears the word basketball she has feelings from when her and her friends would get together and watch college basketball games on tv when she was in college. Everybody has there own feelings that are going to be unique to them, for every word that they know. Therefore when I communicate with someone, I’m trying to take a feeling that I have inside of me and use words as a mobile device to carry my feelings and share it with whomever I am talking to. Hoping that they can relate and share some input and possibly reach a higher understanding of the commonality at hand. But if we all have unique feelings to each word we know then when I talk to someone using words there is no way that they could one hundred percent, fully grasp the feelings that I am trying to share.
In meditation we try to quiet our mind and let a single thought flow. It seems like the longer I can follow that single thought the higher my vibration becomes. It is not easy to follow though and my mind quickly gets distracted and I loose my train of thought. With this new to me way of communication I found that I can stay on a thought path for much longer and reach a vibration level that is much stronger than I can get to alone. We do it by simply having a conversation with absolutely no expectations. Both being free to speak and think naturally without trying to hear the words but instead letting the sounds of the words spark thoughts and freely following those thoughts. By doing this the person talking and the person listening will be in there own worlds and will obviously not be listening to the words you are saying. Instead of letting that distract you and making you feel like your talking to a wall, let yourself talk aloud for the purpose of being able to stay on a that single thought path. Knowing that you are allowing the other person to reach a higher understanding and then being able to immediately share it aloud, allowing you to go into thought about what you just said. By not having the expectation of trying to listen and focus on every word out your mouth, your mouth becomes an instrument and ignites a single flow of thought to whomever your talking to and it allows them to flow freely through whatever thoughts that the sounds from your lips are igniting. By the end of the conversation you both might have no idea what the other person was saying but you will both have reached a level of higher understanding within yourself that otherwise would be more difficult to get to alone.