Room To Grow- The Empowering Potential of Compassion
posted by Virginia Jester | December 6, 2009
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IcerocketAlong the journey of self-discovery and spiritual development, we often tend to flee dogmatic and critical belief systems and pursue more embracing and supportive communities, only to find that we are back in the same critical situation we initially fled.
In a conversation with a coffee shop stranger greatly my senior a few days ago, we covered much ground- form the amazing creation of the Institute for Noetic Science, to the need for the suffocating doctrines of the Christian Church over the last millennium. In this conversation, the underlying theme seemed to be that evolution out of the old into the new will not be from guided meditation and imaginings alone, it will be from action, self-examination and owning ways in which we consciously sabotage ourselves on the journey of self-development; the places where we will need to grow into our expanded awareness and learn to take responsibility for our spiritual growth rather than placing it in the hands of a director or institution. This is no short order, friends.
This inspired me to examine why we seem to be missing the mark so dramatically in the often haphazard community that is liberated spirituality. We came from a time of externally imposed rules and doctrines to a time of internally navigated choices and self-imposed values- all assumed to be for the better of mankind, as well as our individual life experience.
In the process of self-transformation, we quickly come across information and ideas that encourage us to heal at the speed of light, and transform in the blink of an eye. These are valuable and, I believe, viable tools, but for the enlightened beings that share them with us, the elevated spiritual beings who so generously offer wisdom from a place of utter freedom to be. We humans still have work to do in unlocking the emotional jams we have packed into our energy fields, sort of like energetic constipation. So, in the physical body, if you have impacted fecal matter in the digestive system, the only way to remedy that and to get shit to move more fluidly, quickly, healthfully, (pardon the punny french), is to flush! To cleanse and purge the shit that is stuck. Without a digestive system sweep, we have no way to get back on track.
The same is true for our energetic and spiritual development. How can we hope to heal in the blink of an eye, rediscover ancient healing methods of Lumeria and apply them to our modern beings, unless we clear the impacted emotional, energetic and psychic shit clogging us up?
This equates to a bit of bastardly behavior- an airing out and exposure of the shitty arrogance, dogmatic exclusionary habits, and manipulative attitudes that we carried around and packed ever more tightly into our energetic system for the totality of our lives up until now (in most cases).
What does this mean for us? We gotta make room to be assholes sometimes, and when we find ourselves in a good place internally, we can't just ignore our neighbor who is having a really fucked up day from dealing with all the impacted energetic shit coming up from the past. We need to recognize that this is a cleanse taking place, that the person we are experiencing can't bring us down, and if it seems that they do, we must muster the clarity to thank them for exposing the same shit inside of ourselves in need of sweeping out. We can purge together, and we can free ourselves from psychic constipation as a community that just might have to stink for a little bit sometimes.
The greatest pact we could make to one another as a community of people who value, above all else, self- development for the evolution of our souls into a collective connection to pure truth is the pact of compassion. If your neighbor is spewing dogma, love him. If your sister is hurdling judgment, be there for her. If your friend is regressing into old emotional victimhood and you are feeling empowered, pass that empowerment on through the divine gift of compassion, the greatest power from a single value that a collective could offer.
Also, I just put out a video series on Youtube about Spiritual Relationships- may be helpful if you're dealing with this subject matter. There's also a video on Communication for Spiritual Relationships. May be helpful.
Take good care of your spirit, and happy cleansing. I love you.
Virginia
Comments
thank you
— Dec 06, 2009
for sharing this...these things have been on my mind and I could feel the pushing/pulling...I could have never put it into words in such a way and collect so well either...
it is hope and what I take with me from it is patience and respect/love...within myself and towards others...thank you so much for helping me clarifying the forces I felt pushing & pulling...
Thank you for being a part of this
— Dec 06, 2009
we all shi(f)t together, don't we? ;) Glad to put heart into this beautiful community, on evolver and beyond, of people who are doing our best to move beyond our impactions, to free them up, release them and expand. I am humbled by your kind generosity in sharing how this affects you. Thank you too.
Thank you
— Dec 06, 2009
This blog almost seems like a personal response to my own blog which I wrote today. That is why I love this place and all my brothers and sisters here. The shit is flowing something fierce this past week or so, thanks again.
"Soon we'll find out who is the real revolutionaries." -- Robert Nesta Marley
Back at ya
— Dec 06, 2009
left a more lengthy response on your blog post, but I just wanted to say thanks for reading and relating. step by step we reveal ourselves and accept and love what we reveal to one another. hooray for a week of emotional laxatives!
Hey Virginia
— Dec 08, 2009
Harry F Brewster II
Enjoy your work! love the info on contacting spiritual guides it was so on time thanks! As far as relationships and our spiritual growth what would be your guide lines with that spiritual partner? like give me an example of what your conversation would be with this person. How would you convey the foundation of what your looking for in a relationship. There has to be an agreement on some level! obviously a higher one then what we've been conditioned to be in so far,
You mentioned the heart center. We all know the power of sexual energy it can't be denied and I think we have experience the lower energy centers we had our sexual revolt-solution. So let's take that life force energy up into the heart where we find and discover together unconditional love! Witch means acceptance. forgiveness but also integrity and emotional honesty. There's much uncharted waters as far as.......Well for me there is.
I wasn't raised and taught about my sexual energy and how to control it and move it up to higher energy centers in the body. I've discovered them much later. Of course these practices are mainly eastern and still can be developed without much regard for spiritual growth. But for the most part there's the ability to elevate frequency's together during sex. They are skills that can be developed together.
But the boundary's are still a question what if your involved and the other hooks up with another how is that handled? I would say it depends on the circumstances.In a truly open and honest relationship this may and more than likely will come up, like attracts like, so most friends are attracted to the same people, how do you deal with that? A person may have a very strong sexual energy that everyone is feeling what then. We gonna need some transmute skills! and a heavy dose of unconditional love!
What say you?
YES!
— Dec 09, 2009
I could not agree with you more, my friend! Tricky waters indeed, thank you so much for expressing your truth, we're all wondering it- brave soul!
In my own life this has come up quite a bit as of late, the true inspiration for the video. I can relate about the management of energies. I, too, have been on my own path for managing my powerful sexual energies, and in the process I have learned two very distinctly helpful tidbits...
1. a person must undergo the process of balancing his/her energy centers first alone, introducing and familiarizing with the powers that are in each center. Practically, this means learning the powers of masturbation (1st chakra for men, 2nd for women), grounding rituals, survival (providing material needs for ones self). It means exploring ones creative abilities and urges, empowering ones self with values and 'rules' one chooses (self-parenting, if you will), connecting with ones own heart center and its desires- especially the ones that challenge societal values and methods (because its very difficult to come to terms with these for the first time in a romantic relationship), come to terms with expressing ones values and inspirations, connect with intuitive intelligence, realize the higher self and its ability to guide ones life, and, finally connect to the Source that we are all. It does not mean being perfect, just being connected, knowing which chakras are stronger and which ones are weaker, knowing and accepting oneself intimately. This takes individual measures of time, so rather than putting deadlines on it, a commitment to self-exploration is more fitting.
Essentially, move up the chakras and learn to balance them and connect with them alone first. Only then is a person equipped to navigate a spiritual relationship.
2. Once this is done, its important to relate to all potential spiritual partners from the 8th chakra down (if you prefer to use the term chakras). Meaning- learn to relate to the world from Source, then, moving closer is an intimate journey into joining energies in the major power centers- not melding, but joining, sharing. As a partnership travels down the chakras, you get to know one another more completely. it doesn't have to be a step-by step process, many or all chakras will likely be interacting at the same time (this is what we do naturally), but the first three chakras, i feel should be secondary in the relationship.
The guidelines for these relationships, I feel, are based on the individuals involved in them. When this is the case, partners have the ability to communicate what they feel and what they need from the relationship. If, for instance, partners are working on spiritually developing sexually healthy relationships, one or both may need monogamy to create a feeling of safety in exploring. There is freedom here too, because it is quite possible that over the course of building trust and intimacy, both partners might naturally develop into exploring with multiple partners, or not. This is why honest communication and trust are the staples of this intimacy. This model really puts the power and responsibility to create the guidelines into the hands of the couple, and it encourages authentic communication as well, so needs are met more fully.
For a few ideas about communication in these relationships, I have a little vid on this blog:
http://www.evolver.net/user/ginnie_jester/blog/connecting_your_spirit
I hope it helps clarify things, and please let me know how you feel about it! Happy exploring!
take good care...xoxo
wow! excellent
— Dec 09, 2009
Harry F Brewster II
Thank you! I love the way you communicate so down to earth with so little ego
very mellow chill. But informative and instinctual and your young.... in his life time.
I guess you've been around a time or two! Young Sage LOL!!!
Ive been in a relationship for 25 years with two adult children and one teen
my wife is every traditional in her conscious mind anyway......My kids are like me
more or less planting seeds anyway I think were far enough away from biochemical first love high we could explore this together. In fact it's an excellent way for me to introduce some concepts of outside the box spirituality through
exploring form the relationship aspect how a don't you calling it Exploring Spirituality through Sexual Intimacy and when I show her she may love it LOL!!!
Funny thing...
— Dec 09, 2009
Tank you so much for your supportive receptivity- really really good to be the receiver of such warmth :) like!
Also, funny thing, I'm writing a book about all of this right now, and am organizing a talk tour in hopes of getting the word out. It is on this tour that I am certain I will meet my publisher. This is such a live topic for people that I'm doing the next podcast episode about it. I like your title. For some reason those simple titles slip right under my nose sometimes (lol).
I'll message you with the link when it drops next Monday, maybe you and your wife could listen together...
Happy Exploring!
Thank-you...and Great Art!
— Dec 09, 2009
I love the image that accompanies this article, as well as the video. It is quite helpful to me, as I have been a pretty hardcore activist, and recently have sought more spiritually supportive community. I began participating in the Women on the Edge of Evolution Teleseminars, and through that enormous network of women found two other women who were ready to meet physically and form a women's circle. Our second meeting will be tomorrow night, so I will share this with them. I have always felt that honesty is essential in all communications- for them to be worthwhile or have any value. It is in taking the risk to bare one's heart and soul that one also "discovers" kindred spirits who can empathize, understand our own experience and teach us by sharing "their story" and the lessons that they have learned.
I believe you have a lot of courage to open your heart and understandings in such a public way, and I appreciate your generosity and insights.
Such A Pleasure
— Dec 10, 2009
CB- Its such a pleasure to share this, its my souls passion! It sounds like you are also doing your part to make a change and I am so thankful for that- every person on this planet has so much power to make a difference! Hope the circle goes well! Also, if you're interested in spiritual relationships and how to make them work, you may want to read my blog about connecting with your spirit and watch the video on there- I also just gave some suggestions for spiritually congruent communication in the workplace as well.
Take good care, thanks for reading, and thanks for taking the time to comment!
V
