soulmate
posted by marlowemechanism | February 6, 2010
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Icerocketthe word is soulmate not solemate their is nothing wrong with monogamy what is incorrect is that it is put forth as what works for the majority of people when it only truly works for a minority .the evidice is everywhere monogamy is the exception .when we say i love you forever no matter what ,unless you are sensual with another being we are we have made it a business deal ,it is not based on unconditional love the only true love ,monogamists often tell me that im just obsessd with sex ,my response is,no it is monogamists who are obsessd ,sex is the foundation of their relationship ,sex can make or break it ,one kiss can literally destroy a marrige of thirty years ,love is not a physical thing it shold not be based on physical reality ,as far as loving more than one person well alot of couples see thhis as more of an affront than sex ,all this does is cut both people off from the world essentially your putting another person in charge of your life and telling them that whatever experiences they deem acceptable you will obey as long as they give something of equal value ,anothe rbeing cant hear your inner voice cant hear your intuition no one is in a position to decide what is right for you at any givenm time come ,on we have enough trouble ourselves ,now we must take on the responsibility of anothers sacred sensual nature. life is stressful enough we simply cannot know what is right for someone else .its no cvoincidence a stressed out unhappy society is predominantly monogamous its a way we stay completly seperated ,and for those of you in after school special mode ,"practice safe sex and be responsible "of course that applys to driving cooking everything. jealousy is connectd to the ego which will die when your body dies so its gonna milk you for all it can ,convince you that you are the one feeling jealous so it can control your actions your not your soul is pure you are perfect the jealousy we feel is the shadow of greed we want all of another persons time ,experience sex ,love we dont want to miss out dont want to be alone while someone who has shared something beutiful with us makes it obvious that we are not the only conduit to love ,its all greed and what is greed but the shadow of the fear of death
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Cherish you...
— Feb 06, 2010
Sometimes when I say this, it's meant with a meaning I can not really comprehend.
Cherish you...
It's a feeling in action.
Maybe it's faith hope and love in action.
So in the end if Cherishment is love in action...
Then the greatest of the greatest things is Cherishment.
With Cherishment faith hope and love don't even exist
And they are never argued
And if one lives a life in faith hope and love
They tend to bring judgement between the three...
Cherishment in Mystery...
Someone called me the other day and said their loved one
Needed a Soul Retrieval... I told her I couldn't do that
"A Soul is something that is so deep in you that it can not be sold
replaced or mated to anyone but you and Mystory."
I then said I could help with Spirit mending...
Cherishment is not a love for the owning of anyone in anyway.
Cherishment frees to be who one was meant to be
You can not mate your soul to anyone but you alone...
That's cherishing who you truly are.
Whatever works
— Feb 06, 2010
From my personal experience, I think that it is very possible to love more than one person but it is also very possible to just love one. I have been in a monogamous relationship for two years now, and I can say that what my boyfriend and I share is beyond just physical. I can see how either way can work for people, and when you are able to continue pursuing your goals and dreams, while growing as an individual and as a couple, I think that is perfectly healthy. I believe that a lot of people tend to think that being in love with someone means giving up so much of yourself and what you want to do, but I think that is the unhealthy route. But in the end whatever works for each individual is good enough for me.
Do what makes you happy, and don't worry about what others have to say about your choices, it's your life, not theirs. =)
-Carcar
dogmatic repression
— Feb 07, 2010
Just as their is constant change with the ebb and flow of life, so is that change in "love", yes it's very possible to cross paths with more than 1 soulmate in each lifetime. People will come and go during your life's journey for specific reasons and lessons...therefore in my humble opinion it's crucial to share the love you may feel for a certain person whether in be in a compassionate manner or in a physical manner. If your intent is pure and meaningful and you trust in your instinct the dogma of monogamy will only be an illusion that is not adhered to necessarilly within the animal kingdom....hmmmm...
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@ Carcar
— Feb 08, 2010
I have also, fairly recently, experienced such a depth of connection with someone, that I could understand never needing to be romantically involved with anyone else.
This feeling lasted for a few weeks.. & then things changed. I felt him prioritizing things other than the relationship, he had some bouts of acting erratic, etc.
I could understand feeling the "never need to be with anyone else" emotion for a really long time, actually... for years, maybe even a decade or more. But I think, intellectually... I would always understand that things can & will change. People naturally change. Our connection may change. If not in 2 years then in 10 years or in 25 years.
Perhaps I have a keen awareness of this potential in any relationship, given that I've just seen two 35+ year relationships dissolve up close & personal - that of my parents & that of my best friend's parents.
In one relationship, extreme financial & value differences were to blame (having taken 35 years to evolve to that point!) & in the other the husband turns out to have had a string of affairs over the years, & most recently left the wife for a much younger woman (classic).
The latter divorce was the more recent, & has wrought *such* destruction & devastation on the entire family & community, simply because he left her & her children so abruptly & rudely, & had been leading a double life, lying, & keeping huge secrets this whole time.
So in my view, terrible communication between the husband & wife (& family) was really the reason for the destruction - much more than the fact of him being attracted to other people outside the marriage. Had they been able to communicate, had they attempted to communicate it would have made all the difference in the world. Whether they opened up the relationship (not likely), or separated more amicably, some of the family cohesiveness could have been preserved... instead of everyone feeling destroyed & not speaking to him for months like they are right now.
Anyway, the point is... you don't know what's going to happen. You don't know how people are going to change, even if it feels like a sure thing now.
The most important thing is communication, communication, communication.. & I would also think, courage to face your issues!
I do agree that an open relationship is not for everyone. Serial monogamy seems to work for a lot of people too!! And polygyny works in plenty of other cultures around the world.
Again, I would think the thing to keep your focus on is the love you do have for your partner, & the reality that your relationship will most likely go through changes & phases.
If you find an amazing primary partner, then alternating between monogamy & opening the relationship over the decades seems like a sensible idea to me.. thereby lessening the likelihood of having to throw the 'baby out with the bathwater' at any given point.
But hey, I am admittedly still learning the ways of LooOOovE!! :)
Namaste all.
- Melanie D.
