Ungendering

This is a meta-project--I will break it out into two separate projects and retain this one also, because they are related

Perhaps the great renewal of the world will consist of this, that man and woman, freed of all confused feelings and desires, shall no longer seek each other as opposites, but simply as members of a family and neighbors, and will unite as human beings, in order to simply, earnestly, patiently, and jointly bear the heavy responsibility of sexuality that has been entrusted to them.

― Rainer Maria Rilke, Letters to a Young Poet

This is a vision for healing our culture of the divisions of sex and gender. I have two disparate implementations I'm working on.

Part 1:

This project involves education about the biological realities of sex and sexual identity. We think we know what "man" and "woman" mean, but do we? Is there a specific set of genes and/or genitals that are definitive for each identity? If so, what does that imply for people who fall outside of either definition?

I'm at a stage where I need suggestions to move this forward. There's a legal project here regarding the lack of definition for "man" or "woman" as used in the U.S. Defense of Marriage Act. That injustice codified as law needs undoing.

Part 2:

This project is more personal and involves changing the way we date and form intimate relationships (regardless of sexual identity or orientation). This is my radical honesty relationship project which has two parts to it.

1) A prerequisite to finding a meaningful relationship is authenticity. If you pretend to be something you aren't, you won't be loved for who you are. You'll know it and that deception will impede your experience of connection. Real love comes from the vulnerability of putting yourself out there, warts and all, and being accepted for who you really are.

2) To sustain a meaningful relationship you need a higher purpose beyond the relationship itself. You and your partner(s) create projects (like this one) to work on together.

There is a website I want to develop based on these concepts. It will be more than a typical dating site because the shared projects portion is also an invitation to people who are already in a relationship to renew it.