Weening Ourselves From Dualistic Thinkings

Let me first say that I am not a physicist or a scientist so these thoughts are coming only from what I have read and thought about and my own intuition.
Anytime I read a book or see a film(i.e. "What the Bleep") about reconciling the split between science and spirituality, they all seem to say that what is spiritual is not physical or that the spiritual is not material. This seems to me to be a clinging to the idea that matter and spirit are separate and therefor dual.
Let me first define terms. I would like to make a difference between distinction and separation. Through our human senses, we distinguish between "objects" that we percieve. For instance, we distinguish between the thumb and the other fingers, but the thumb and fingers are part of the hand. We distinguish between between the yoak and the white of the egg, but they are part of the egg, they are separate. And they are really only distinguished in our limited human senses. I as I understand quantam physics, there is no separation or distinction at all outside of our perceptions.
What if we classify spirit as a form of energy or and combination of information/consciousness and energy. Correct me if I am wrong, but doesn't Einstien tell us that energy and matter are the same thing in different forms? It is only a spectrum of solidity or denseness and lightness or fineness. A diamond or a crystal being really dense, and spirit being very fine. The finest of the fine.
What I got from reading Erwin Lazlo's "Science and the Akashic Field" is that each partical/wave creates a field around it and that connects it to ever other partical/wave in the universe. And this field pervaids throughout the universe. I put this together with the idea of gestalt. That the whole is more than the sum of the parts. That there is an energy that works among seemingly separate "objects" when you put them together. I think this may be way feng shui works as well. This energy, I propose, is spirit. This is how spirit travals faster than light and goes through solid matter and animates matter.
Throughout history there have been many spiritual traditions, religions, and philosophies that tried to put down matter or the material world as at best and illusion(as in Eastern religions) or downright evil or fallen in Judeochristianity. This led to systems of trying for our good souls/spirits to escape from the material world. I will propound my theory of why this tendency came about in religious history in future blogs. But the fact of the matter is that spirit cannot escape matter because spirit is a manafestation of matter. Matter creates spirit through its varous energy fields and in return energy animates matter. Like Shakti and Shiva. Shakti (matter) creates Shiva (energy) and he animates her and moves her through love.(Eros) This is how the universe/Kosmos creates itself.